“Your 40's are good. Your 50's are great. Your 60's are fab and 70 is fu🤬ing awesome!” ~ Helen Mirren
Embracing and looking forward to the ageing process is something that many of us actively rebel against.
The way women perceive ageing definitely influences how they age, so it's important to embrace the concept of growing older and look at the many, many positive aspects which come to us at 50 and beyond.
1. Recognise your true beauty
Learn to look in the mirror and like what you see.
No, there isn’t a 20 year old woman looking back at you. But why would you want that? You aren’t 20 anymore, you are even better than that.
Think back to those times.
They come with self-doubt, insecurity and a whole host of other emotions as you struggle to find your way in the world.
Fast forward and you become wiser, more patient, worldly and accepting. Less reliant on the opinions of others and more open to new things, new places and new people.
Situations that would have overwhelmed you in the past are easily overcome because you've "been there, done that".
Now, more than ever, in our uncertain world, the wisdom you have accumulated is priceless and can never be bought.
That right there, is truly beautiful.
2. Live your life, it's a long long way from over
“I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.” - Lucille Ball
How many of us can honestly say that we grasped every opportunity that ever came our way? Or said yes to every invite we ever received?
Not many! Sometimes saying no is easier. Safer. Less effort.
The problem is, the more we say "no", the more stagnant we become.
Soon, a vibrant life gives way to routine, then familiarity and finally, boredom.
As Joan Rivers once said "I was smart enough to go through any door that opened."
We should never stop trying new things and embracing new passions!
Being proactive, seeking out and going into every new experience with a positive mindset can yield so much joy. It's worth stepping out of your comfort zone to get there.
3. Make yourself priority #1 for a change
As women we often feel the need to put everyone else’s needs and desires before our own.
Probably a hangover from when our kids were younger or when we were trying to make our way in a new career.
But there is one message getting attention, especially over the last year, which is the importance oflooking after your body and mind.
When your body gets what it needs it functions properly. The same goes for your mind. Keep it active everyday. Seek out pleasure in the things that give you joy.
These acts of self care don't need to be elaborate either.
Run a bath and light a candle. A 40 minute soak and soft candlelight can solve many of life's little problems.
4. Be Mindful
Higher brain function, lower blood pressure, increased awareness.
Who doesn't want that?
These are just some of the benefits when you induce a state of relaxation, which can be achieved through mindfulness.
Being mindful is all about living in the moment by focusing on the present. It's a Buddhist technique which has seen a surge in popularity in the last decade or so.
Living a fast paced life can take its toll on our mental wellbeing. Focusing on the here and now and being grateful for what you have is proven to decrease stress and prevents us from ruminating on issues.
5. Be kind to yourself
We are our own biggest critics.
When you are happy and content within yourself you exude a confidence so spectacular it will do more for your appearance than any face cream could ever achieve.
That’s not to say that you are going to feel amazing about yourself 100% of every day.
The world is obsessed with self improvement. In the social media age we are constantly exposed to people having everything bigger, better... more.
We start to make unhealthy comparisons with others. So here’s a tip, when you have a quiet moment take time to make a little list of things you like about yourself.
It could be something as simple as I have great legs, or, I am a great mum!
Read over this to remind yourself of all the amazing things about YOU.
As the American journalist Mary Schmich wrote "The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.”
Never compare, the only person you need to be better than is the one you were yesterday.
Comment below and let us know your tips for feeling fabulous about ageing.